To embrace dark femininity is not just about how you look or dress or who you cut off, it’s a way to be magnetic. Light femininity is what most women fall under. They are soft, sweet and maybe even subservient. They let their boundaries cross by people and may even show people pleaser tendencies. What happens when this same woman is tired of keeping up the facade, to keep up the circus that is her life? She falls into darkness.
Darkness is not evil, it can be, but it’s not inherently evil just like light is not inherently good. The one who embodies the light or dark attributes, her personality, her way of being, her shadows (if not worked on) can create the extreme imbalance. Maybe a trauma from childhood that’s left unhealed, maybe a partner who cheated that’s left unprocessed. It can be anything. That’s why shadow work is imminent to understanding our dark side, what ticks us, what makes us insecure. Working with it rather than trying to eliminate it completely is the key.
Yes, with shadow work one learns to accept and forgive themselves but there is also a choice of embracing it. If you know you are a jealous partner, you don’t have to become devoid of jealousy, but use it as a tool to manage it and even, magnetise yourself, so that you can attract equally possessive and caring partners. Our shadow side is not about detaching from the bad, but to embrace it and embody it. That’s the trick to being magnetic. It is to fully own and accept your past, your habits good or bad, your personality and with the awareness that you are an ever-evolving being and you can only evolve once you truly accept yourself, flaws and all.
Dressing dark and sultry can give the impression that you are in your dark femininity; however, it’s your vibe, your aura, that truly speaks louder than your clothes or makeup. It is a grounded vibe, maybe slightly reserved, but open to connections that feel good to the soul. You get picky with who you let in your orbit, and if you are high vibrational, you attract the right people to come speak to you rather than you chasing them.
It’s all about being selectively available and I would suggest you invest your time in genuine soul bonds, be it platonic or familial rather than mating bonds because once you embody your dark feminine energy, you become a beacon of light for low vibrational people, pretty from the face, rotten from the soul. It’s very important to be selective in a romantic sense, but it’s your choice at the end of the day. Stay grounded and in your power to magnetise the career, the friends, the trips and the man you want.