Should you manifest your soulmate?

Everyone wants to manifest their soulmate, I don’t believe in twin flames because honestly, the journey is exhausting. But soulmates are real enough for me to believe in because I have a soul family, so I must have a soulmate..right? Well, it’s not that simple. First thing’s first, you can become soulmates with someone with who you have a serious bond with, someone who almost feels like a soulmate? Probably is. But There are tiers to it. You can have multiple soulmates. You can have friends as soulmates, parents, pets and yes, lovers too. And that’s what we want most, lovers as soulmates, no? So let’s talk about it.

A love soul bond is sacred and different from a twin flame journey, although if you have a high and deep enough past life soul bond, it can feel fated and mirroring like that of a twin flame journey. But for those of us who are extremely spiritual and can see one’s soul- yes that’s a thing- your soul mate will probably have a different soul print to yours. A twin flame will have the same as yours but I don’t know for sure. Anyway, A fated love connection between soulmates is not uncommon but is also not normal. As I said earlier, you can become soul mated with someone in this life which will be new and exciting and if your past life soul mate has incarnated in this life, that pull, if you are in the same vibration as them, will be stronger and deeper, but at the end of the day, it’s all about free will and who you choose and who chooses you too. Cannot be in a one-sided relationship with anybody, you know?

So manifesting a soulmate is not just about doing rituals and listening to subliminals and affirmations and hoping and praying to God or the Universe, it’s more to do with your own inner work and healing yourself enough to be with a high value soul mate. People can have multiple love soul bonds in this life if they are spiritual enough and they have options in a way to decide where to stop the healing and “settle” with their one true love. 

Many always want more and leave good connections, sometimes divine timing is off, sometimes, the soul bond is weak or sometimes the stated soul mate chooses someone else to manifest who aligns better with their path. Life happens. 

If you know who your soulmate is and they’re not in a love connection with you or even in contact, first thing’s first, how are you doing? I know it can be tough. You have to know that if it’s meant to be it will be and if it’s not, there are better plans for you. But yes, sometimes, when we know someone and think they’re perfect for us, we want them and they don’t reciprocate our feelings and that hurts but like maybe you could do shadow work to find out what is blocking your connection, maybe if you’re in contact with them you could have a heart to heart to understand their hesitation. I don’t particularly believe in divine masculine and divine feminine anymore because I learned that both exist in each and every one of us and what energy we emulate more is not always based on gender, although gender norms come into play and societal pressures too, but sometimes, some people, trigger our masculine or feminine side more. And as a woman you want to be in your ‘soft girl’ era and have a man take care of you, it’s natural. However, if you are naturally more a go-getter, you may want someone who balances you out. It’s all about perspective at the end of the day and who we like and share a bond with.

With soulmates, it’s pretty straightforward in a way where you attract what you desire and it stays because of the bond but also through investment in the relationship. I won’t suggest you to hold a torch out for a soulmate who you think is your soulmate but you’re not in contact or they don’t feel the same, I am suggesting you to be open to the idea of making new connections and have a new soul bond with someone who may treat you better than your past life soulmate. History only takes you so far. Time, energy, efforts, love, devotion, loyalty, understanding and mutual respect all play factors in making any connection worth your while. 

So, to manifest or not? You can and should if that’s what you desire, but I am saying be okay if it’s not who you expect. Be okay with surrendering, letting go. We plan and they plan, but God is the best of planners. Believe in divine timing and do your healing and shadow work and be open to the idea that love is just around the corner for you. That you love yourself first and you value your time and energy to not waste in wrong or short-term connections. Connect with your own soul and know what you deeply desire, and then go after what you want. It starts from you. Always.